Often Men are nervous or shy on their first dates. They like the girl and try a lot to make an impression. But while doing this they forget who they really are. So the first thing to do is "Be Yourself". If you are deciding the place then take her to your favorite place. That way you would know everything that's good about it. If you to a new place, when she asks you "what is good in here?" You wouldn't be having a answer. That is the first minus point. And after that you might not enjoy the whole night. Instead, when you take her to a familiar place the answer can be easily given. You would be confident about the answer. That will boost you up and the conversation.

    You can talk about everything and everything with her, unless it's not offensive and sexist jokes. Remember that it's not what you talk about, it how you talk about it. Believe me; you can have talk to her even about gadgets and global warming. Only if you do it right.

    And the key is to keep it as simple as you can. Your hair tells a lot about you. Keep it as simple and well set as you can. Visit your barber once a month. Don't over dress. That doesn't mean that you should just wear anything from your wardrobe. Pick something that suits you and comforts you too. Put on a deodorant with light smell. So even if you are nervous and sweaty she wouldn't know that. Even if you are uncomfortable, pretend you aren't and then you will start enjoying her company.

    Listening is the key to a great conversation. Show interest in everything she says. And built up another conversation on what she says. Add you personal thought, give your opinions. Respond in every possible way you can. But this isn't an interview, so relax and think what you are going to say before you actually say it. Don't brag about all the stuff you have or will have in future. Well, that depends on the girl you are going out with. Hey, you are a guy, you can at least figure that out. If everything goes well, you be a sweet heart and gentle all the time. Then you might get to hear 6 magical words in dating language "we should do this again sometime" All I've got to say is you've earned it!

    通常男人在第一次約會時即緊張又羞澀，他們喜歡那個姑娘，竭力要給她留下好印象，可是卻忘記了以自己的本來面目示人。因此約會寶典一就是"還自己以本來面目".假如由你來決定約會地點，則選擇自己最喜歡去的地方，這樣你就會對它的優點了如指掌。如果去一個新地方，要是她問起"這里都有什么好玩的？",你就不可能對答如流了。這是出現的第一個小問題，接著你可能不會整晚都盡興了。相反，要是帶她去你熟悉的地點，則這個問題就是小菜一碟，答案了然于心，這樣你就會信心大增，你們的談話也會興致勃勃。

    你可以與她談論任何事，或對任何事發表自己的見解，唯獨不要涉及具有侮辱性的話題或是開與性有關的玩笑。謹記，重要的不是你的談話內容，而是你的談話方式。相信我，你甚至可以與她談論那些小產品及全球變暖。只要你表達得當就可。

    再者，要保持簡潔。你的頭發會傳達許多有關你的信息。盡量保持簡單而有型。每月理發。不要打扮過頭。我不是指你從衣柜里隨便拿件衣服就萬事大吉了，而是要穿得即合體又舒服。灑點淡淡的香體露，這樣即使你因緊張而出汗，她也不會有所察覺。即使感覺不自在，也要假裝泰然自若，接著你就會開始喜歡有她的陪伴了。

    傾聽對于一次愉快交談至關重要。對她所說的一切表示出興趣，根據她的話題進行引伸，談談你的個人想法，發表自己的見解。但是這可不是一次面試，所以放輕松，在開口之前先想好要說些什么。不要吹噓你現在或將來擁有的任何東西。嗯，不過這取決于與你交往的姑娘呢。咳，做為男人，你自己可以做出判斷。如果一切順利，你就會自始至終表現得即溫柔又紳士了。那么，你就會聽到約會中經常說到的那幾個字了"何時再見面呢？"

    我所要說的就是，你已經大獲成功了！